I’m writing this because I can’t stop thinking about you. To say I miss you is an understatement.
Where do I begin? With the day I first met you I suppose. I knew your name before your face, but I am so glad I got to know more than those two things. I got to know you. When I met you, another boy was annoying me, trying ask me out on a date which I didn’t want. You had to login on my phone so it made it look like you were putting your number in my phone which made that guy stop and I’m grateful for that. That night you texted me and asked me out for coffee to get to know me better and I was so scared of you and your intentions I said no.
But somehow we hit it off. You were down right funny and I loved the sense of humour your brought into situations and into my life. In group conversations now, I find myself waiting for your meme-y comments and when they don’t come I remember you’re not here and my heart hurts a little.
After our first meeting was a series of weird flirting moments. I liked you to a degree and when you flirted with me, I flirted back. Then our other friend stepped in and told us to stop because he knew we weren’t right for each other. Eventually we established our relationship and continued to flirt despite being just friends.
It was an unusual relationship which confused many people including us at first. We would flirt a lot but it never led to anything more. Some described it as “a thing”, others described it as a “brother-sister relationship”. I enjoyed what you gave me. You treated me as special and gave me attention. I’ll admit, I was very shocked when I found out you were secretly sleeping with our friend. But I’d like to think deep down you respected and loved me in a way that you didn’t with other girls. Yes, in some ways I do feel like I was just another girl, but you treated me differently to other guys and I appreciated that. You respected my wants and needs, honoured me as a person and never crossed the lines.
I guess from all of this you taught me a lot about relationships.
Firstly, you taught me about about respect in a relationship. I used to let guys treat me how they wanted and never voiced my rights because I didn’t understand that it’s okay to set boundaries. Now I know what a guy respecting you feels like and I will never let anyone do otherwise. In some ways you gave the the boyfriend experience without actually being my boyfriend and that was really valuable for me because I’ve never been in a real relationship before.
Secondly you taught me how to be vulnerable. I sickens me to admit but… I am afraid of commitment. I suppose that’s why I’m a serial flirt who’s afraid to let anyone in. You were the only guy I let my walls down around. It sounds strange because honestly, I didn’t even let my walls down very far. But that was enough for me to see that being vulnerable is okay. It’s scary, but it’s okay. Christian guys would never flirt like secular guys but are eventually looking for a serious relationship, and secular guys will flirt but always want sex. You gave me the happy in between which I so badly wanted and needed. After you left, I realised no one else in my life can give to me the way you did and that were the most respectful guy I had met. Never in a million years would I ever date you, a cynical, alcoholic atheist, but somehow I had given a piece of me that I could never get back and to be honest, I don’t regret it one bit.
Lastly, you taught me to never settle for anything less than what God has for me; which is a strange thing to write since you’re an atheist but it’s true. You taught me that good guys are out there and that if a secular guy like you can be that respectful and nice, I’m 100% sure a Christian guy can be too.
Among these things you also taught me about life. You often told me off for being immature and childish and I was so ashamed but also thankful for you calling me out. You taught me to grow up, to stop being a crazy baby and start being an adult. You taught me to have fun and to not take life so seriously and I’m thankful for learning something new about life from you.
I’m going to be honest. My heart broke when you left. I knew you leaving was inevitable but even in the months, weeks and days leading up to your departure I cried a lot. I dreamed about you twice too, I shouldn’t be sentimental but it was so real like you were here again and that was nice. I know we’ll see each other again someday and I hope with all my heart that we can still have what we had. Even so, I don’t know if I want to pick up where we left off. I’m almost scared to see you again. I don’t know. Thank you, I guess. For everything. I miss you. See you in the comment section of the meme pages 🙂
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